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Funny, when I’m complaining about TOB I usually parody it by saying something like his toenail claim.

I suppose for me I don’t get it because when life is stressful, sex isn’t a crutch or a desire anyway-I’m barely surviving. Im thanking God everyday for the gas in our pickup, the food on the table, and that we are blessed to have children. I’m also pregnant, so hormonally I don’t really have much of an “urge” anyway.

If you have sexual urges, you are not "called to be celibate."

Great discussion. Christopher West is one of my favorite human beings. He's so articulate, funny, and transmits theology of the body into perfect language.

Thank you guys! Would be great to hear this episode between Wendy and Cameron ... I believe it would be a blessing for women.

It was simply a hard Habit to break.

Chasity for unmarried men and women of all ages is the optimum state Its so freeing and no pressure and allows you to submit your will to God completetly so you can actually love others as yourself

object vs subject was a huge part of a conversion in my life. I was surprised by noticed that I lusted over parts of my wife and in a sense didn't see her as a whole. The Holy Spirit has done a lot of work in my in regards to this and I'm thankful.

You can wear workout leggings & a rash guard, that's what I do. As a bonus, covering up from the sun keeps your skin looking smooth as you age.

If you want to have a spiritual life with your spouse, periodic abstinence is really effective. If only people would realize how healthy this is. Intimacy without sex can really do a lot in a relationship. If you are single then it's a given that you are a celibate. Don't make the same mistake of what I did over the years doing things that are not intended by God for us. Sex isn't the goal here. It's being in a relationship that will give meaning in our lives. Being a celibate right now means I can pursue God by being obedient and aligning myself with what is intended for me which is my calling for marriage. I'm so blessed to had been given this wisdom.

Just a suggestion...perhaps actually getting a celibate person like a priest to speak on this topic may be more feasible. It may be a bit disconnected for two married men to speak on how a celibate person handles their sexual urges. Understanding it is one thing but hearing from the horses mouth how its lived out is different- Sincerely, A catholic seminarian

Thanks, Elizabeth! I appreciate you and your ministry. You no doubt know, there’s also spontaneous versus responsive desire that plays into this.

Complete contradiction but who needs explanations.

Hello Christopher, first of all thank you very much for your work. It really brought my faith life and experience to the next level. I have a question/request I want to ask you. Could you comment on the new Mary Statue which was recently published in the Cathedral of Linz, Austria? It is a statue of Mary giving birth to Christ. But like actually giving birth. Legs open, I even think you can see the head of the child coming out and all of that. I would be really thankful if you could leave a respond or even make a response video to it. I would really like to know what an expert on the topic TOB would say to this. I had some discussions with some other catholics about it. Most of them tool the position that the statue is blashphemious, a disrespect to Mary and so on. I, and I was the only one, thought that, eventhough the statue is somewhat scandulous, it still has some very profound theological thruths. Being witness of the incarnation ond so forth. Overall I would really love to know what your thoughts are as an expert. I would be very thankful.

The sexual urge doesn’t always have to do with another person, but it is having the desire to climax and release tension, created by excessive blood flow to the genitalia.

This video’s general topic reminds me of a thought experiment I once pondered. I tried to figure out whether the Virgin Mary had the same capacity for physical yearnings and, if so, how it could still be a blessing in light of her call to perpetual virginity. These below were my observations… 1.) Because the appetite for physical intimacy was part of Adam and Eve from the very beginning and not a product of the Fall, it would only be natural for “New Eve” to possess it too. However, any such desires that Mary potentially possessed would have been untainted by sin, per Catholicism’s doctrine of the Immaculate Conception. So it would have been perfectly aligned with God’s will and not have had vices/disorders like Lust mixed in. 2.) Although Mary’s calling was to perpetual virginity as the mother of Jesus, Mary still had free will. I heard Trent Horn arguing that the Immaculate Conception was also important for ensuring Mary could consent to such a mission, without having her mind clouded by disordered desires or a fear that God would be displeased should she say “no”. If God wanted Mary to choose this mission freely, then I imagine it was important for God to still give Mary the ability to recognize and appreciate the beauty and joys of a more typical marriage, so she is not just choosing perpetual virginity out of being denied knowledge of the alternatives. 3.) Even after Mary made to choice to serve God as a perpetual virgin, I imagine having the capacity for such yearnings could still serve a purpose, similarly to how anyone called to a celibate vocation can still respond to their desires in a way that helps others and glorifies God. For example, Mary could have chastely recognized the physically attractive beauty of the men around her, recognized the beauty of the full person from there, then further oriented her mind towards appreciative the Creator behind such beauty. Also, for all I know, Mary could have had chances to counsel other woman about their romantic yearnings by drawing from her own experiences, while also expressing happiness for and encouragement towards any particular woman who would be called to “know” a particular man.

This is truly the most delusional aspect of the Catholic Church. Promoting the myth that being holy or devoting yourself to service transforms your sexual needs into a transcendent nature. This is not true. Nothing will free you of your sexual desires except expression. Just as nothing will free you if your hunger except satisfying it. Until you accept these facts of human biology, you will remain caught up in false Catholic doctrine. Being celibate will not make you more holy or closer to God, in fact, it will do the opposite. As Jewish teachings state, experiencing sex is the closest union with God that exists. Music can also rise to that level of intimacy as well.

Thank you, guys, great lectures! 55:58 I think a nuance could be added here. It's beautiful when we speak about the hope of being truly seen and appreciated instead of just shallow objectification. But I think you a bit skipped the problem that for many people it's not comforting anymore, because this seems completely unachievable, dream-like. I can see how a person living many years feeling completely unattractive may want to even be objectified, with full consciousness, just to feel being worthy of interest. Surely, it would be great to be noticed as a full person, but this hope may be already lost. Being desirable at least on a surface level, while wrong on a deeper level, feels better than being completely ignored. By this I mean that knowing that there is another option is not enough, when this option still seem completely out of reach.

I love this! So true! Thank you for speaking with honesty and conviction. This is eye-opening 👏🏻

Little boys, to the tune of billions of dollars worth of lawsuits, sickos! Married priesthood is superior.

My sister in law and her husband didn't have problems with it. She took communion at the Catholic Church and went to her Methodist Church. The boys were both Catholic and Methodist with no problems. When he was dying from MS we went to his Roman Catholic Church and took Communion. This was great for the family.

sounds like a lot of nonsense

I actually cannot watch movies or shows with nudity anymore. I have started doing the Matt Fradd thing and researching it beforehand to prescreen

It makes me laugh imagining people continually climaxing in Heaven (perhaps). 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Hilarious that you chose to present this topic with a discussion between two married men. We need witnesses, not reporters.

Saint Faustina said her biggest wish is to unite herself and her will with Jesus. I believe mystical or supernatural union in faith or becoming into Christ will fullfill every need because he is The Flame of Love :)

two of the dumbest bitches you've ever met saying exaaactly to each other

John Pauls book love and responsibility isa great book on human sexuality and love .

Is it normal that I don't experience those urges?

Thanks for talking about this! Do you think it’s still ok to watch movies with nudity/pornographic scenes even if you skip over those parts? My husband thinks it’s fine to skip over when they come up but I’d rather not watch the movie at all since it’s still likely we see some of it as we are trying to fast forward and also I don’t want to support those types of movies or shows if they choose to have that in there.

There is no spiritual vocation without celibacy. This urge is transformed mysticaly and how it happens has to be known to those who have spiritual vocation. If priest or nun proclaims this should be given up and lost in Catholic Church, it ither means they do not have spiritual vocation or they are not able to live that vocation properly, which is the same. 🙌🏼

Awesome video Elizabeth! Both this video and the modesty bikini video as well, very uplifting and also truth revealing. As a man striving for a Christ centered life, discerning marriages resources and these videos are crucial. Keep up the awesome work :)

There's real intimacy found in other ways. It's actually profound

The Anglican pastor that I met said Catholic's pastor's celibacy is not biblical. Even St. Peter had a mother in law which means he was married. What is the rebuttal?

Hello Christopher, first of all thank you very much for your work. It really brought my faith life and experience to the next level. I have a question/request I want to ask you. Could you comment on the new Mary Statue which was recently published in the Cathedral of Linz, Austria? It is a statue of Mary giving birth to Christ. But like actually giving birth. Legs open, I even think you can see the head of the child coming out and all of that. I would be really thankful if you could leave a respond or even make a response video to it. I would really like to know what an expert on the topic TOB would say to this. I had some discussions with some other catholics about it. Most of them tool the position that the statue is blashphemious, a disrespect to Mary and so on. I, and I was the only one, thought that, eventhough the statue is somewhat scandulous, it still has some very profound theological thruths. Being witness of the incarnation ond so forth. Overall I would really love to know what your thoughts are as an expert. I would be very thankful.

Could some of this be applied to tight clothing? What about yoga pants, leggings as pants, skinny jeans, ECT.?

This man is so lost. Galatians 1:9 NKJV - As we have said before, so now I say again, if anyone preaches any other gospel to you than what you have received, let him be accursed. Galatians 1:19 NKJV - But I saw none of the other apostles except James, the Lord’s brother.

This is why I'll never forgive Oppenheimer, such a great film ruined by it's unnecessary graphic scenes

Hallelujah!!! I’m favored and blessed with $60,000 every week! Now I can afford anything and also support the work of God and the church.

🙏 thank you for this beautiful teaching

Chat should I stop playing gta online?

I love that guy.

Thank you for the great video and your ministry. My very specific question is whether or not you have thoughts about the sex scene about making a sex scene in Love Actually (and I guess comedic sex scenes in general). Many of your thoughts and points in the video apply but I can't help but think sometimes there's a cost to making art*. I could be wrong. I rewatch that movie almost every holiday season and I want to know if I should just continue to avert my eyes or avoid watching it altogether (which would be unfortunate because it's a great movie). Thanks! *I guess the best way to frame it formally would be to say "it is not intrinsically evil to visually simulate sex involving full or nearly full nudity" because the scene is very graphic

Reject Hollywood embrace Farming Simulator

I recommend the podcast from Magdala Ministries, particularly the episode Why 'Men are Visual, Women Want Romance' is a False Dichotomy.

For myself, I have to turn any show off as soon as it dips into this stuff. I recently had to turn off the sopranos which I was hoping I would enjoy, (was recommended by many Catholics) and it’s just so awful and immoral I couldn’t get through it. It’s to the point where I am made uncomfortable at work because people will recommend shows and I basically have to ask people if what they are recommending me to watch is softcore porn, as I’m not into that. That’s a weird conversation to have to have in a work environment.

So basically there’s no solution since it’s impossible for a woman to be wrong or have any responsibility towards her husband... you might as well be some flavor of bubblegum evangelical.

Thankyou brother 🙏 for another amazing message, soooo beautiful and true! God’s beauty is in all creation can be Loved and appreciated in a pure, holy way that brings greater union with God!

I don't think my comment on the other video was positive. I think videos like that can be very harmful!

Context CAN be critical in this discussion here. What about The Godfather undressing scene on the wedding night between the husband Michael and wife Apollonia? With that said though I do feel the spouses are the ONLY ones who are allowed to see EACH OTHER naked.